Thich Nhat Hanh - no mud no lotus. the lotus flower cannot be there without the mud. likewise, happiness cannot be there without suffering. looking deeply into our suffering, we gain an understanding of it, which gives happiness a chance to blossom. thus, the lotus does not have to reject the mud, and the beauty of the lotus actually gives value to the mud.
This also pertains to events in your life that are meant to teach lessons. When you are ready and strong enough to deal with something, it will then appear, but it's up to you in how you react and grow from it.