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Julie Menanno on Instagram: "Love isn’t just a feeling. It’s something that needs to be communicated via words and behaviors. Most people don’t get the items in this post right all the time….for many people, being good at love takes time and maturity. Another important piece of this is self-love. Are you able to show up for yourself in these ways? And of course, reciprocity matters in adult relationships. In the big picture, for a relationship to be healthy both partners need to be able to give and receive love. That might not always happen in every given interaction….sometimes one partner might be more resourced and have more to give, but ideally it balances out over time. So….here are some ideas you and your partner can use to love each other more fully. ❤️ #healthycouples #relationship
Julie Menanno on Instagram: "Love isn’t just a feeling. It’s something that needs to be communicated via words and behaviors. Most people don’t get the items in this post right all the time….for many people, being good at love takes time and maturity. Another important piece of this is self-love. Are you able to show up for yourself in these ways? And of course, reciprocity matters in adult relationships. In the big picture, for a relationship to be healthy both partners need to be able to give and receive love. That might not always happen in every given interaction….sometimes one partner might be more resourced and have more to give, but ideally it balances out over time. So….here are some ideas you and your partner can use to love each other more fully. ❤️ #healthycouples #relationship
Fix Relationship Communication | Couples Advice on Instagram: "👇🏻Step-by-step ✅ Start the Conversation
Someone has to go first. Keep it simple and non-defensive. 
Something like: “Hey, I don’t want us to stay like this. Can we talk when you’re ready?” ✅ Be Clear About Why You’re Bringing It Up
Let them know you’re not trying to fight again. You just want to understand each other better and move forward. ✅ Respect Their Pace
If they’re not ready, don’t force it. Just ask them to let you know when they are. It gives you both time to cool down and come back with a clearer head. ✅ Own Your Part
If you said something hurtful or crossed a line, acknowledge it. A real apology can make a big difference in how safe the conversation feels. ✅ Really Listen
When they open up, don’t jump in or c
Fix Relationship Communication | Couples Advice on Instagram: "👇🏻Step-by-step ✅ Start the Conversation Someone has to go first. Keep it simple and non-defensive. Something like: “Hey, I don’t want us to stay like this. Can we talk when you’re ready?” ✅ Be Clear About Why You’re Bringing It Up Let them know you’re not trying to fight again. You just want to understand each other better and move forward. ✅ Respect Their Pace If they’re not ready, don’t force it. Just ask them to let you know when they are. It gives you both time to cool down and come back with a clearer head. ✅ Own Your Part If you said something hurtful or crossed a line, acknowledge it. A real apology can make a big difference in how safe the conversation feels. ✅ Really Listen When they open up, don’t jump in or c
CouplesCommunicate| Healthy Relationships on Instagram: "The way you end the day impacts your emotional connection! 🔵 Try these bedtime habits to deepen your bond: 1️⃣ Put your phones away – Screens kill intimacy. (Most skip this!) 2️⃣ Talk about one good thing from your day – Gratitude matters. (Don’t overlook this!) 3️⃣ Check in emotionally – A simple “How are you?” goes a long way. (Most forget #3!) 4️⃣ Show physical affection – Even a small touch builds intimacy. (This one fades fast!) 5️⃣ Say “I love you” with meaning – Make it intentional. (More powerful than you think!) 6️⃣ Resolve small tensions before bed – Don’t sleep upset. (Most neglect #6!) Follow @couplescommunicate for more"
CouplesCommunicate| Healthy Relationships on Instagram: "The way you end the day impacts your emotional connection! 🔵 Try these bedtime habits to deepen your bond: 1️⃣ Put your phones away – Screens kill intimacy. (Most skip this!) 2️⃣ Talk about one good thing from your day – Gratitude matters. (Don’t overlook this!) 3️⃣ Check in emotionally – A simple “How are you?” goes a long way. (Most forget #3!) 4️⃣ Show physical affection – Even a small touch builds intimacy. (This one fades fast!) 5️⃣ Say “I love you” with meaning – Make it intentional. (More powerful than you think!) 6️⃣ Resolve small tensions before bed – Don’t sleep upset. (Most neglect #6!) Follow @couplescommunicate for more"
Women Empowerment | Motivation & Quotes on Instagram: "Which tiny habit will you nurture today? ❤️ Most relationships don’t fail because of one big thing. They fade because of a thousand tiny things left undone. Water the small moments. Choose love even when it feels ordinary. Save this for your forever love. Follow @femmenova.club for daily women empowerment and inspirational content, that lifts you up🤎 ✨@femmenova.club ✨@femmenova.club ✨@femmenova.club . . . #relationshipgrowth #emotionalintimacy #relationshiphabits #growthmindset #softlove #deeperconnection #womenempowerment #relationshipadvice #selfgrowthjourney #healingjourney #mindfullove #softlifeera"
Women Empowerment | Motivation & Quotes on Instagram: "Which tiny habit will you nurture today? ❤️ Most relationships don’t fail because of one big thing. They fade because of a thousand tiny things left undone. Water the small moments. Choose love even when it feels ordinary. Save this for your forever love. Follow @femmenova.club for daily women empowerment and inspirational content, that lifts you up🤎 ✨@femmenova.club ✨@femmenova.club ✨@femmenova.club . . . #relationshipgrowth #emotionalintimacy #relationshiphabits #growthmindset #softlove #deeperconnection #womenempowerment #relationshipadvice #selfgrowthjourney #healingjourney #mindfullove #softlifeera"
Women Empowerment | Motivation & Quotes on Instagram: "Which tiny habit will you nurture today? ❤️ Most relationships don’t fail because of one big thing. They fade because of a thousand tiny things left undone. Water the small moments. Choose love even when it feels ordinary. Save this for your forever love. Follow @femmenova.club for daily women empowerment and inspirational content, that lifts you up🤎 ✨@femmenova.club ✨@femmenova.club ✨@femmenova.club . . . #relationshipgrowth #emotionalintimacy #relationshiphabits #growthmindset #softlove #deeperconnection #womenempowerment #relationshipadvice #selfgrowthjourney #healingjourney #mindfullove #softlifeera"
Women Empowerment | Motivation & Quotes on Instagram: "Which tiny habit will you nurture today? ❤️ Most relationships don’t fail because of one big thing. They fade because of a thousand tiny things left undone. Water the small moments. Choose love even when it feels ordinary. Save this for your forever love. Follow @femmenova.club for daily women empowerment and inspirational content, that lifts you up🤎 ✨@femmenova.club ✨@femmenova.club ✨@femmenova.club . . . #relationshipgrowth #emotionalintimacy #relationshiphabits #growthmindset #softlove #deeperconnection #womenempowerment #relationshipadvice #selfgrowthjourney #healingjourney #mindfullove #softlifeera"
Rebuild on Instagram: "Every couple fights. But not every couple knows how to come back to each other. Research by Dr. John Gottman and others shows this: It’s not about whether you argue. It’s about what you do after the argument. Healthy couples don’t ignore the tension. They lean in — gently, consistently — through small, powerful rituals: - Revisiting the fight when calm - Taking a 20-minute break before re-engaging - Using a hug, a kiss, or a soft phrase to reconnect - Asking “Are we okay?” before the day ends - Ending with appreciation, not just explanation These micro-moments of repair reduce emotional damage, restore safety, and rebuild trust. And the best part? You can start practicing them today. Backed by studies from: Gottman Institute, Sue Johnson’s EFT, and peer-review
Rebuild on Instagram: "Every couple fights. But not every couple knows how to come back to each other. Research by Dr. John Gottman and others shows this: It’s not about whether you argue. It’s about what you do after the argument. Healthy couples don’t ignore the tension. They lean in — gently, consistently — through small, powerful rituals: - Revisiting the fight when calm - Taking a 20-minute break before re-engaging - Using a hug, a kiss, or a soft phrase to reconnect - Asking “Are we okay?” before the day ends - Ending with appreciation, not just explanation These micro-moments of repair reduce emotional damage, restore safety, and rebuild trust. And the best part? You can start practicing them today. Backed by studies from: Gottman Institute, Sue Johnson’s EFT, and peer-review
Motivation | Finance | Business on Instagram: "Every couple argues—it's part of being human. But the way you argue makes all the difference. These 5 rules aren’t about avoiding conflict; they’re about handling it with maturity, empathy, and love. If you're in a relationship, save this. Revisit it when things get tough. Love is not just about the good times—it's about how we treat each other in the hard moments. Which rule stood out to you the most? Drop it in the comments. Tag your partner or someone who needs to see this today. Follow @motiveminds for more real talk on relationships, personal growth, and emotional intelligence. Let’s grow together—one mindset at a time. relationship advice, mature love, emotional intelligence, healthy communication, couples therapy, conflict resolut
Motivation | Finance | Business on Instagram: "Every couple argues—it's part of being human. But the way you argue makes all the difference. These 5 rules aren’t about avoiding conflict; they’re about handling it with maturity, empathy, and love. If you're in a relationship, save this. Revisit it when things get tough. Love is not just about the good times—it's about how we treat each other in the hard moments. Which rule stood out to you the most? Drop it in the comments. Tag your partner or someone who needs to see this today. Follow @motiveminds for more real talk on relationships, personal growth, and emotional intelligence. Let’s grow together—one mindset at a time. relationship advice, mature love, emotional intelligence, healthy communication, couples therapy, conflict resolut
Rachel Wright, MA, LMFT on Instagram: "Nobody taught us how to say: > “I need space, but I still love you.” > “I want this kind of touch, not that.” > “I’m not okay, and I don’t know what I need yet.” But we can learn. You still can. Even now. (And it’s not too late to ask for help doing it.) Which one of these do you wish you’d been taught?"
Rachel Wright, MA, LMFT on Instagram: "Nobody taught us how to say: > “I need space, but I still love you.” > “I want this kind of touch, not that.” > “I’m not okay, and I don’t know what I need yet.” But we can learn. You still can. Even now. (And it’s not too late to ask for help doing it.) Which one of these do you wish you’d been taught?"
LoveSecurely | Couple Wellness & Security on Instagram: "Assumptions create confusion and emotional distance. Asking the right questions fosters transparency, trust, and connection. By seeking clarity, you strengthen your relationship. How do you avoid assumptions in your relationship? Share below! 💬 If you are ready to build the kind of connection that feels steady, safe, and lasting, we would love to send you something special. Comment "Lasting" below and we will send you our free guide, filled with the habits, tools, and insights that helped us build the healthiest relationship of our lives. We wish we had known these essentials sooner, and we are so excited to share them with you."
LoveSecurely | Couple Wellness & Security on Instagram: "Assumptions create confusion and emotional distance. Asking the right questions fosters transparency, trust, and connection. By seeking clarity, you strengthen your relationship. How do you avoid assumptions in your relationship? Share below! 💬 If you are ready to build the kind of connection that feels steady, safe, and lasting, we would love to send you something special. Comment "Lasting" below and we will send you our free guide, filled with the habits, tools, and insights that helped us build the healthiest relationship of our lives. We wish we had known these essentials sooner, and we are so excited to share them with you."
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Fix Relationship Communication | Couples Advice on Instagram: "Save this and share it with your person so you don’t forget! 👉🏻Saying “I need a minute to calm down” instead of walking away without a word. 👉🏻Looking at your partner during conflict instead of avoiding eye contact. 👉🏻Listening with curiosity—not shaking your head or interrupting. 👉🏻Validating their feelings before offering advice or solutions. 👉🏻Using “I feel” instead of “You always.” 👉🏻Softening your tone—even when you’re frustrated. 👉🏻Asking “Is this a good time to talk?” instead of starting mid-stress. 👉🏻Touching their arm or hand when you’re discussing something hard. 👉🏻Pausing to reflect before responding—especially if you feel defensive. 👉🏻Saying “Thank you for telling me that” even when it’
Fix Relationship Communication | Couples Advice on Instagram: "Save this and share it with your person so you don’t forget! 👉🏻Saying “I need a minute to calm down” instead of walking away without a word. 👉🏻Looking at your partner during conflict instead of avoiding eye contact. 👉🏻Listening with curiosity—not shaking your head or interrupting. 👉🏻Validating their feelings before offering advice or solutions. 👉🏻Using “I feel” instead of “You always.” 👉🏻Softening your tone—even when you’re frustrated. 👉🏻Asking “Is this a good time to talk?” instead of starting mid-stress. 👉🏻Touching their arm or hand when you’re discussing something hard. 👉🏻Pausing to reflect before responding—especially if you feel defensive. 👉🏻Saying “Thank you for telling me that” even when it’
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Todd Baratz, LMHC 🌈 on Instagram: "Being a good partner isn’t rocket science—it’s really not that complicated. Love your person the way they need to be loved. Take the time to understand what makes them feel seen, valued, and safe, and meet them there. 100% perfection? Unrealistic. But you should be able to show up at least 70% of the time. That’s a C-. If you can’t hit a C-, that’s a problem. Not something to beat yourself up over, but definitely something to pay attention to immediately. Otherwise, you’re not being honest with yourself—you’re just replaying unresolved wounds from childhood and letting your trauma run the show. It’s not fair to your partner, and it’s not fair to you. So figure your shit out. Learn how to be a good partner."
Todd Baratz, LMHC 🌈 on Instagram: "What does showing up actually look like? It looks like getting involved in your partner’s world—asking real questions, following up, showing curiosity not because you have to, but because you care. It looks like buying them something small at the grocery store just because it made you think of them.
It looks like making a dinner reservation. Planning a date. Giving them a massage without them asking. It looks like sending a random text gassing them up—telling them how impressed you are with who they are, how they live, how they show up in the world. It looks like asking about what excites them—their passions, obsessions, niche interests—and not just listening, but actually developing a curiosity of your own. It looks like letting them influence you. Admi
Todd Baratz, LMHC 🌈 on Instagram: "What does showing up actually look like? It looks like getting involved in your partner’s world—asking real questions, following up, showing curiosity not because you have to, but because you care. It looks like buying them something small at the grocery store just because it made you think of them. It looks like making a dinner reservation. Planning a date. Giving them a massage without them asking. It looks like sending a random text gassing them up—telling them how impressed you are with who they are, how they live, how they show up in the world. It looks like asking about what excites them—their passions, obsessions, niche interests—and not just listening, but actually developing a curiosity of your own. It looks like letting them influence you. Admi
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Todd Baratz, LMHC 🌈 on Instagram: "If your partner calmly tells you what they need—listen, and then do it. If they ask for reassurance, don’t roll your eyes—reassure them. If they ask you to plan a date—plan the date. If they ask you to check in more—send the damn text. If they suggest a book or article—read it. If they want to try a couples activity—show up for it. If they express hurt—don’t get defensive. Be soft. Be kind. Be there. If they want to be cuddled—cuddle them. If they ask you to try harder—try harder. If they ask you to take initiative—don’t act like it’s a chore. Show up. Every time your partner asks for something with clarity and care, and you ignore it, minimize it, or delay it, you’re eroding trust. Love isn’t just about feelings—it’s about actions. You can say “I love
Todd Baratz, LMHC 🌈 on Instagram: "Imperfect. Aware. Open. Flexible. Driven towards emotional and personal growth. Thats it. Not their abs. Not their bank account. Not their social status. Not even their knowledge. But the ability to face themselves with a f*ck ton of honesty."
Todd Baratz, LMHC 🌈 on Instagram: "Imperfect. Aware. Open. Flexible. Driven towards emotional and personal growth. Thats it. Not their abs. Not their bank account. Not their social status. Not even their knowledge. But the ability to face themselves with a f*ck ton of honesty."