I'm only responsible for what I say, not for what you understand. Although as an author I am responsible for making readers understand--a reader who doesn't understand is an unhappy reader. (And there is some value to leaving some questions unanswered.
I know getting hurt to well. If I named all of the people that have hurt me I'd be here forever. But I don't tell people they've hurt because every time they do they play the victim and that hurts me even