This has been what my mum has always done and will continue on doing...no contact has gone on for 9 years now and will continue no contact for the rest of my life!...the back lash has been devastating and heart breaking, literally... my 'mother' is an evil woman with no soul!
One of the risks of being quiet is that other people can fill your silence with their own interpretation: You're bored. You're depressed. You're shy. You're stuck up. You're judgmental. When others can't read us, they write their own story - not always one we choose or that's true to who we really are. | #INTJ
There are many ways narcissists use to bait others into conflict. Some of them are: Dredging up incidents from the past, shaming, attacking your integrity, accusing you of lying/cheating, triangulating you against someone else. While the methods they use vary, their motivation for baiting others into conflict is for power & control. When a narcissist can antagonize others to the point of feeling or expressing strong emotions, they get a surge of abusive power.