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Chances are if you're involved with an abusive narcissist, you're likely a gorgeously compassionate person, but this may be a stumbling block in setting yourself free from the relationship. Stop feeling sorry for the narcissist now, read to find out why.
"What really knocks me out is a book that, when you're all done reading it, you wish the author that wrote it was a terrific friend of yours and you could call him up on the phone whenever you felt like it." Catcher in the Rye
Children of Narcissistic parents are perfect sources of supply. They are no better thought of, they come in handy when supply is scarce and just like everyone in close proximity to the Narcissist, they are idealized, manipulated and stonewalled when.
So is he lying when he says he loves you? Most of my clients do feel a powerful sensation inside that they call love. For many of them, it is the only kind of feeling toward a female partner that they have ever had, so they have no way.
The time just before we fully recover is the trickiest time for us, because it's the time when we still feel the emotional pull, and it's the time when we need gentle but firm parenting from ourselves to bring us back to the reality of the situation.