When you start to recovering from narcissist abuse, you will change. You might freak everyone out. People who are used to the "old you" may be caught off guard. It allows you to set up boundaries and let others hold their own pain and anxiety instead of you taking it on for them. You become more assertive and confident. Allow this to happen. The dust will settle and everyone will adjust.
#narcissists play dumb ... like posting, "go ahead, judge me, just remember to be perfect for the rest of your life (like living in one man's house, having a one-night stand with another, moving forward to date a third, all to fall back on option two is ever considered "perfect")
The narcissist sociopath chose you because you are brilliant, bright, compassionate and caring. He chose you because of all the qualities he lacks and expected you would prop up his low self-esteem and fragile ego. You defeated the monster with your beautiful heart and you became stronger in the process. So he has to move on to a weaker woman. One that will look past his lies and tolerate his abuse. Keep your integrity and heart intact. This evil man chose to walk away...
Codependency intervention. There are several alcoholism counseling programs that try to coach families on how they can stay away from enabling the addict and in fact work constructively in getting treatment for the person.