When we talk about SwanWaters, we often explain it as a place of support and validation. There is a reason why we specifically highlight validation, because it fulfills a multitude of important functions in the process of recovery.
Going thru this now. It's sick how he can deny all forms of abuse and basically not only call me a liar but our children who witnessed it and were inflicted. All to save his own face. Best thing was removing us from a toxic place. We are safe...Just breathe
Leaving a narcissist is never easy! Get THIS – my ex, in conjunction with my own jealous sister, actually offed my own mother, because she kept refuting his sensationalized allegations and lies against me in court. Why he thinks no one would TELL me is beyond me, and I'm pretty sure I'm still in shock over that revelation and haven't fully come to terms with it yet, I'm in disbelief that it's actually my life :-/
Something in the Shattering: A Look At Domestic Violence and Abusive Relationships
Common effects of DV on kids who witness it........ Children who witness violence in their homes often feel betrayed. Their pain is caused by the very people who are supposed to love and protect them. Both the aggressor and victim are the child’s PRIMARY ROLE MODELS for learning about social & emotional relationships. The child’s core feelings in this situation are: •“There is no safe or protected place for me” •“My caregiver cannot protect her/himself . . . and, therefore, can’t protect…