Emotional and verbal abuse is no joke. The scars are brutal. But healing begins to come with time and A LOT of hard work and prayer. One breath, one step at a time. Keep moving forward. You were made for more.
I agree with most of this. I hate conflict as do most people. I don't dislike comparison because how do you know if something is better if you don't know when something is worse and vice versa. And seeking Improvement is all about comparison. We have better homes, safer cars, cleaner air, etc., because we compared them to previous versions and made improvements. Comparison should be used as a tool to seek improvement when necessary.
A beautiful passage from The Velveteen Rabbit - one of the most amazing books for children written - also says an awful lot to the adults that read it too :D Copies available from: Unicorn Tree Books, Lincoln Central Market, Sincil Street, Lincoln. LN5 7ET. http://www.lincolnbookshop.co.uk