Wish I'd seen this when my kids were younger and I heard this all the time. So to @terrareary, @tiffanyvranes, @maggiegardner, and all you ladies that have a handful of little ones. Now you have a response.
First, take time to get to know yourself before you seek a partner who fits. Second, once you know yourself, BE yourself. Express who you are in everything you say and do-be authentic. You will attract the very best partner for you.