What To Do With An Emotionally Unavailable Man. Oh man, I've dated a few guys like this. Had to let them go. Bottom line, he can be a good guy and do everything right – but if he’s not acting like a boyfriend, you’re wasting your time. I didn't go thru major pain to leave a bad marriage to end up in another unfulfilling relationship. I'm not dating to waste my time on guys who aren't fully in. Either they're into me after a certain amount of time, or time to move on.