All too often we believe that the problem is us, when nothing could be farther from the truth. Just as the flower fails to bloom in an unfavorable environment, so to do we. Change your environment and change your life.
"A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it just blooms." --- Everything is you and God thing, and there is nobody else involved. So comparing or competing is just waste of time. Keep focusing on yourself, focusing of loving yourself.