Do not tolerate being vilified. Distance yourself from those who seek to take underhanded jabs at you while maintaining their innocence. Such behavior barks of immaturity and a complete disregard for the feelings of others.
I owe your brother a huge debt of gratitude. Without him and his intercessions I would've surely ended up right where I was before. A huge mess. But he was smarter than I was and kept me from revisiting the biggest mistake of my life. And I don't think we would be here if I had done that. He's awesome :) I love you and am grateful to him