Narcissists are extremely sneaky. They will use your reactions to what they have done to you, in an effort to make you look crazy. They do this by telling others only half of the actual occurrence, and conveniently leave out their actions.
Sometimes you just have to accept that some people are shitty humans and stop trying to see the good that isn't there. - It's takes a lot for me to believe someone is a shitty human being, but once I do, I'm done.
Never feel sorry for the Narcissist. They choose to ABUSE because it makes them feel good about themselves, albeit, only temporarily. The narcissist feels rejuvenated when they see you in pain and that you are suffering.