"How did this happen? Who’s to blame? Well certainly there are those more responsible than others, and they will be held accountable, but again truth be told, if you’re looking for the guilty, you need only look into a mirror." V for Vendetta.
Being true to who you are, don't allow the expectations of others and society with their social norms over rule you. You decide what you do and don't like about yourself, and you'll be the only one who can change yourself, not someone else.