Sometimes the "I would love to: see that person, do that course, get that body I really want, spend time by the ocean or out in nature, travel to that picture postcard place etc" . Becomes a distant memory. How sad is that? How sad it is to substitute
Grieving is scary, but having a frown to sit silently beside you.that makes it less scary. (Scary Shit Series - Stillbirth — a really sad topic but one that's really important. Give it a read so you can support anyone that goes through it.
Love is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person. To love somebody isn't just a strong feeling. It is a decision, a judgement, and a promise. A decision that I always rejected b/c I saw it as a weakness when I chose a person to make me happy.