Tip: Don't try to be too different unless you can laugh at yourself. I loved the idea sand unity, but I still wanted a candle. So I bought the beaded wax and used food coloring to make it my wedding colors. All seems fine, until I forgot to factor in the aspect of an outside wedding in June. The wax wouldn't come out! Look at my groom's tongue (he's trying so hard). All of my guests laughed and the preacher even made a joke that sometimes blending families isn't always easy.