9 Hear Truth - yep, always trying to conceal and/or rejustify it with bullshit (i.e. that eight month hiatus in 2011. . .if she's saying that i may not know which "ugly sweater party" she met this man (a bullshit excuse that i do not know my timeline): either year she'd cheated on him with someone because no one who "loves" someone would ever walk away for another person, let alone other people - for this man was never mentioned until august 2011).
Life is messy, no matter how much we try it is a day to day task fo rus to enjoy and follow our passion. You don't need to clean up - you need to use the mess to create something beautiful and fun that best represents YOU!