"Just be a silent witness." Dr. Deepak Chopra speaks often of this theme. I guess it's an extension of "Don't Sweat The Small Stuff." I made the poster as a reminder, great to have it posted where you will see it every morning I thought. When I do remember to be a Silent Witness I feel quite proud of myself - not jumping in "Where Angels fear to tread." There's a lot of wisdom in this sort of behaviour, protecting yourself from stress and harm.
Definitely the most exciting discovery in my life has been that I actually am responsible for the life I create. Every inch of the way I am constantly making choices that mould me, the circumstances I live in and how I can respond to each of them. So, for example, I can set my mind on the debt that is growing in my bank account or I can choose to open my mind to creating and attracting wealth into my life. This beautiful poster is a visual aid to help me visualise and remember.
Romance is about being engaged with each other. (Not engaged to, but engaged with.) Listening, emotional sharing, feedback, all ways of being in the moment. It's bonding and powerful. The memory of such moments can last a long time!
I've been supporting couples all my life. When there's a rocky patch or a breakdown, the first thing I look for in the relationship is the presence of absence of the expression of gratitude. I see gratitude as the glue that hold couples together. Gratitude is loving what you have, not longing for more. That's tough at times.
"Wisdom and nature sings the same songs." When you observe the behavior of nature it's not always easy to see the wisdom in it. For example the great Yellowstone Park fire in 1988. We all thought that fire was the end of it's glory. But look at Yellowstone Park today! There must be a zillion examples of nature showing it's wisdom - if we are keen enough to observe.
If he says he loves you the question to ask is: Does he listen to you? How can you love someone you don't listen to? I designed this poster as a reminder to practice this magnificent habit of listening every day. It's the best platform for your love to grow on.
"I can't make you feel." I've lost count of the number of energetic discussions I've had around this statement. It's certainly not a popular piece of wisdom. I suggest it requires an insight into how our biology works. *whew* Which comes first, the thought or the feeling? Details aside, taking this insight on-board has been an incredibly liberating experience for me. It puts the brakes on blaming others for the way you feel. Do you like the poster?