This stands true for me since i've shut down from people, i feel more confident without their negative vibes bringing me down. I was tired of being excluded, and looked down on all while being friendly, polite, & supportive. I'm much more confident now. Self respect has taken away the insecurities. I'm also getting a very sharp intuition as i get older that i listen very closely to.
"Someone asked me this PM how i deal with my pain; i replied: 'Some nights when its really hard i cry in the shower, but i make sure i never take my tears out of the shower. Once i step out, i have to be bolder, stronger, more determined." -E'phil