You may not see the reason at the exact time, but some day you will. And looking back I thank God every day for unanswered prayers!! If I was in control of my life I would be stuck somewhere with someone and miserable. When you're finally in the right place and with the right person everything finally makes sense and you realize you should have been more trusting all along ;)
I love my kids dearly... but they will leave home one day... What will the relationship I'm left with be like. When I realized this, my husband became my first. It also makes "cutting the apron strings" a whole lot easier.