Don't even worry about video games, tv, movies, or comics if you want a girl. Man-up, Suit-up, and wine & dine the crap out of the girl you like. Girls, no matter how un-girly they are, love to be wine & dined.
In the end you both win. You both become stronger and wiser. You both grow, you both transform. And once you realize you've reached the point where you genuinely wish nothing but real happiness for the other person and hope they're alright and got it all figured out; that's when you know -in my opinion- that you've healed, but most importantly you've both become better people.