aka...living a lie. Only the true narcissist hates the truth. No normal, rational person can ignore the truth. Listen to the way people frame conversations and you'll figure it out. It may take awhile to put the pieces together, but never doubt your gut. There are some guys in this world who will invent bullcrap about their exes in order to look more appealing. (And women will do this too, guys! Their act is usually the damsel in distress, battered woman act.) Avoid! Period.