Very well put. It's not right or wrong or good or bad. It's hurt and fear and need and family and damaged people doing the best they can for the damaged people around them. It's ugly and messy and painful and real.
From the first season of Justice League Unlimited - finale, with Terry McGuiness, the future Batman, confronting an aged Amanda Waller, who recounts this story about Ace of the Royal Flush Gang and Bruce's Batman.