A leader who confines his role to his people's experience dooms himself to stagnation; a leader who outstrips his people's experience runs the risk of not being understood. Kissinger at Lifehack Quotes
The pain will change, hopefully become less raw with time and in distance allow perspective impossible now. For now, care for yourself, those around you and be as kind and patient as you can. This is the best life advice I have to give.