Amends keep the goodness of a relationship alive. When I make a true amends or accept a true amends from someone else, I am able to hold what is still of value of a relationship. We are both saying, "This thing we have is worth keeping." When someone makes an amends to me they are giving me what I need to keep the good alive.
Less stuff, less debt, less choices, less accessibility, less overwhelm, less automatic ‘yeses’ because we don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or we’ve forgotten to turn our default from yes to I’ll think about it and get back to you.