I am and always will be the optimist. The hoper of far-flung hopes. The dream of improbably dreams. --Thinking of getting "Dreamer" as a tattoo on my wrist. If my wrist were bigger I would consider "Optimist, Hoper, Dreamer"
People who at one time "Used To" treat you right don't deserve an endless flow of opportunities to hurt you. Memories are great, but a "Healthy Relationship Diet" can't be sustained if it's only to exist from old memories!
Takers will use you for whatever you will give and when a better opportunity or piece of advice comes along, they will bail on you without any gratitude and go in their new direction to take from someone else. The thing to keep in mind is that takers.